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Is it cheating if your partner has a pen pal overseas and keeps the letters in a locked drawer?
Asked another way: Is it cheating if your girlfriend has a pen pal overseas and keeps the letters in a locked drawer? Is it cheating if your boyfriend has a pen pal overseas and keeps the letters in a locked drawer?
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Nah. Relax. It's nothing.
Micro. Not cheating. Just disrespectful.
Macro. Phone on the table. Now.
Unforgivable. Bags packed. Locks changed.
Every case on Cheatistics gets one of four verdicts. Micro-cheating means small, often secret behavior that points attention or intimacy outside the relationship. Macro is a real breach of trust. Unforgivable is the end of the relationship. Read the full breakdown.
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